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Feb 22nd 2013 12:21AM Try a very short flight first to a city very close to yours. Just make sure you can fly on a larger jet. JetBlue has decent size planes that fly to close destinations. NYC to Boston is approx. 45min. There are air vents above each seat and you can open them to full blast if you have to. Bring activities that relax you. I like to bring my ipod (you'll have to turn if off for take off and landing but can have it on during the flight) easy crossword puzzles, gossip magazines, a deck of cards etc. You can bring your own snacks. Pay your bills. Whatever helps you with anxiety at home may work on the plane provided you can bring it on the plane. I also bring my Rosary beads and pray. You can talk to your doctor and get anti anxiety medicine for flying. Fly with someone you're comfortable with and have an interesting conversation. Use the time to come up with mental lists. I have a large family and do mental challenges like try to remember each ones' birthdays, ages, what age order they are in the family. I group them by age, birth month, first letter of names. It sounds nutty but I turn it into a game and it makes me focus on that activity and not what makes me anxious. I have suffered from anxiety and panic for years and these things help me. I am also very claustrophobic but the plane looks smaller as you're walking in but once you sit you see a lot of space around you and the cabin is usually cold when you're in the air. I hate turbulence (I always pray for a safe flight) but I truly enjoy traveling and refuse to let my fears stop me from enjoying life. Fly during the day so you see a lot of light. I know a few people who have to be medicated with anti-anxiety pills before flying. I also bring antacids and chewing gum helps a lot. I use a product called Earplanes which are rubber and go in your ears to help relieve pressure, especially when landing. Chewing gum, along with wearing the Earplanes, really helps with pain and pressure in your ears.
May 15th 2011 10:54PM If it's that important to mothers to provide breast milk to their babies, then either take the time off from work until all your children are in school or hire a nanny or babysitter to stay in your home and pump the milk.
Apr 10th 2011 9:43PM In my opinion the reason why so many women are infertile today is because 1 - they wait too long to have their first child. The ideal age for a first child to me is between 25 - 30. 2- they go on the pill for a long period of time - for many years without taking a break and that affects their ability to produce eggs. A lot of women want to focus on a career first but the reality is nature has not caught up with the times.
Oct 22nd 2010 8:23PM You can go to the library and look for a baby name book or buy one or you can go on-line and google baby names and meanings.
Oct 18th 2010 3:35PM Even though it was tacky of your mother-in-law to react that way in public I could understand her frustration with bad grammar. It makes us appear uneducated and lazy. The worst is when people think they sound smart by substituting I for me as in
"Between you and I". Don't people remember the "object of the preposition". It should be "between you and me". I don't care if everyone thinks I've wasted my time on this post. It's disgraceful that in this day and age we sound dumber than ever.
Aug 10th 2010 1:21AM There are six billion people in this world. Nobody should be alone. There should be someone for everyone. Maybe I'm too idealistic but I think she is clever and if she doesn't find her soul mate then she will donate the wedding to an engaged couple. Too many people wait for life to happen to them rather than going out and making it happen. That's why there are so many miserable people in this world and most of them are probably the ones who are criticizing this woman. Be proactive, set goals and at least try to make them happen. I do agree with her that men should be the pursuers but there is nothing wrong in meeting and dating different guys if you get the chance. Opportunity is like a wheel of fortune, when it stops at your number you need to grab the prize.
Jul 21st 2010 2:26PM Most people can't handle the truth
Jul 17th 2010 11:10PM It never ceases to amaze me that in a world with over 6 billion people and a city like New York with over 8 million people, there are so many single, unattached young people. What's wrong with the younger generation. My husband who is now in his late sixties had no problem getting women when he was young. He pursued me relentlessly before we started dating. He told me upfront his intentions were good and he meant it. He's as charming as ever. The younger generation wants to be "cool" which means you don't show your feelings, play stupid games and don't commit. Women love when men do the pursuing. I would think overly aggressive women would be a turn off to men but society is changing. Nice men and women seem to be the losers because the rules have changed and nice people do seem to finish last in the dating world. Today it's about wasteful hook ups and STDs.
Jul 14th 2010 7:41PM I think many of you are too cynical and are missing the point. There is nothing wrong when someone who cares about you wants to help you find a good mate. Face it, our culture is going down the drain and it's hard to find a "nice" guy or girl, and older adults, for the most part, have more wisdom and experience and may have a son or daughter who is both attractive and a decent person. I am always on the lookout for nice people for my kids to meet. That doesn't mean I rule their lives. They are independent and intelligent and can make their own choices but it just widens the net at bit if a parent knows other people. But, hey, if you think that way, fine with me. My kids will have more choices if yours are not putting themselves out there.
Jul 3rd 2010 11:54PM Zak - you're not God so don't tell people not to have kids. It is our God given right to "be fruitful and multiply" as long as we go about it in a responsible manner. I personally think people who go for extreme fertility treatments like the Gosslins and Octomom are irresponsible and selfish but there is nothing wrong with wanting biological children as long as you're going to raise them to be compassionate people with good values. What I'm seeing today are arrogant parents raising bratty kids who grow up to be apathetic and take bullying and being mean to new heights.