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Lost And Found: How Uncertainty Makes Travel Memorable

As the bus begins to pull away from the bus stop in Chania, I catch the old man's eye again, giving him a thumbs-up through the window. He stares back blankly – then leaps to his feet, waving his arms, pointing, shouting. I raise my hands in an uncomprehending shrug, keeping the palms turned inward to avoid flipping him a mountza, the traditional Greek insult. He shouts louder, as if volume alone could break through the language barrier that had us miming to each other a few minutes ago. Then his body slumps into a pose recognizable the world over – "Oh, you bloody fool" – and that's when it hits me in the stomach.
I'm on the wrong bus.
I have an hour before my ferry leaves the port of Souda, taking me away from Crete and back to mainland Greece. If I don't hit that ferry, my carefully engineered schedule slithers through my fingers and I'm left untethered, without local knowledge, a decent enough grasp of spoken Greek or the money for new tickets. Without that ferry, I'm lost.
I sit down, by order of my knees, and stare out at the dusty, baked scenery as we rattle God-knows-where-wards. And then something strange happens. Panic ebbs away. I start to appreciate how lovely the light is, the rose-fingered sunset fading through the spectrum into that special glowing blue that enlivens domed roofs and door-frames right across Greece. I'm warm, I'm well fed, and I have no idea what is going to happen next – and it's this last feeling that is so intoxicating right now.
When most people travel, they seek the unknown – either in a familiar, packaged, piecemeal form with the help of guides and tour operators, or the raw, improvised version that's so popular with people young enough for their nervous systems to take it. I go off the beaten track using a third approach, which I like to call "Oh You Bloody Fool." Somewhat appropriately, it's a way of travel I accidentally fell into. I go places, things go wrong, and I fall through space, screaming. This is usually, but not always, a metaphor.
There's a perverse joy in having your travel plans collapse around you. I've missed many flights and will doubtless miss many more. Once I get over the initial shock, once I've leaned against the nearest wall and cursed everyone up to and including the Wright Brothers, a calmness steals over me. I change. Lacking any alternative, I'm forced to become the person who can deal with this mess. My senses fly open, taking great gulps of the world around me, collecting data for my suddenly hyperactive brain to sift through in search of Life Or Death Answers. My heart thumps. My jaw sets. No time to waste – and off I go.
In "A Field Guide To Getting Lost" (2006), Rebecca Solnit says:
"The thing the nature of which is totally unknown to you is usually what you need to find, and finding it is a matter of getting lost."
I've spent a lot of the last decade getting lost. I've been lost on England's North York Moors in the middle of a rainstorm with the light fading – one of the few times I've genuinely hated not knowing my location. I've blundered across Berlin at 4 a.m. in search of my hotel, clutching a rain-dissolved paper map. I've suffered a thousand deaths of embarrassment in front of strangers, and I've eyed other travelers – so competent, so self-assured – with a mixture of envy and hatred. Why can't I land on my feet instead of my face? Why does it all have to be so hard?
Perhaps this is the wrong question. Perhaps it's really this: why do I want travel to be easy? When it's easy, it's a non-experience that our memories can't get a grip on. Thanks to the miracle of GPS, we need never be lost. We can get from A to B knowing exactly what B looks like and having a machine dictate the entire route to us. Our technological support networks are vast and all-powerful, and our guides, physical and virtual, know more about the places we're going than we ever will. We are mired in certainty and we need never put a foot wrong. But what if that's not what we need – or why we travel at all?
I'm not pondering any of this as my bus takes me away from Chania. I'm fully in the moment, hunting for clues to where this bus is going, scanning the horizon for landmarks that tally with the map in my "Rough Guide." There are 11 people on that bus. One lady is wearing a brown hat; one man has spectacularly hairy ears. These details are unforgettably burned into me by an elevated level of awareness ...
I'm having the kind of travel experience I left home in search of.
Ten minutes later, the port of Souda hovers into view, and I realize, with curious disappointment, that I'm saved. I'm on the right bus after all. I unwittingly compensate by getting off the bus far too early, forcing me to sprint the final mile with a fully-laden backpack, and then I spend the first hour of my ferry ride lying semi-naked on the cool metal floor of my cabin, trying to bring my temperature down. The rest of the journey is a self-recriminating haze.
These days, being lost is at the heart of the kind of travel I love, filled with stories I don't know in advance, positioned along the uncomfortable line between serendipity and disaster. Occasionally wild uncertainty is thrust upon me, as when I was robbed of my passport in Düsseldorf, seven hours before my flight home to England. (Ever wondered how long a UK emergency passport takes to put together? About six hours.) I've learned to appreciate these experiences for what they are – a living hell at the time, a treasure-trove of travel memories afterwards. All that said, I give myself lots of leeway nowadays, spacing out connections and over-budgeting where I can. I may be a bloody fool, but I'm not stupid.
[Photo Credit: Flickr user Jenny Downing]












Reader Comments (Page 1 of 1)
Amanda Jan 31st 2013 2:17PM
These are the kinds of travel experiences I love to read about. There is nothing more frightening and anxiety-building than being in a foreign country to your own devices and not having a clue where you're heading.
Actually, my friends and I have been sharing similar stories at www.holidaymigraine.com and I think it would be great to have another one of your stories shared there.
We are planning to have a contest for most popular story starting in March, 2013.
I hope that you can join us, read about some of our experiences, and share in the community. :)
Beatrice M Feb 4th 2013 7:14AM
Love this write up. I am usually planning things out when I travel and could do with more adventures. The times when life has taken control and 'derailed' my well-thought out plans have often proved the most interesting. Letting life dictate my plans is not that bad of a thing. :D
Ian [EagerExistence] Feb 4th 2013 8:48AM
I too have been lost countless times, and the number of times I had a panic-attack when I was actually going the right way, even more.
I was backpacking (the reverse way) through Morocco when in Essa I met a solo female backpacker travelling in a similar style to me (the opposite way).
I asked her if she had much trouble.
She said no. Everyone was so kind.
They picked her up at the airport, drove her places, helped her shop; basically did all her communicating for her.
It was then I realised, even though Id been lost, scammed, threatened, and almost assaulted -- Id rather have my experiences than hers.
At least my way had been a result of my own decisions and interactions, with all the heightened sense-of-awareness, anxiety, fear, and memories.
Thats why I travel. To make mistakes, and have an adventure.
Sharon Miro Feb 4th 2013 12:09PM
I have experienced the same stomach dropping "OH NO", followed quickly by "oh, well...I love the adventure that unintentional mistakes can bring when traveling: the small street filled with vine covered arches in Istanbul, the wrong train from Venice to Florence, where I sat with Gypsies and old women and tried to communicate about being a lost American, and ended up sharing lunch.
If you don't enjoy the heart thumping bump of the occasional miss-step...uh, don't leave your living room.
Peter Parkorr Feb 4th 2013 9:07PM
Awesome stuff Mike. You've reminded me this is the kind of stuff I started blogging to write about. The best memories from the most unpredictable situations. I'm so familiar with this style of travel mishap that these days I always warn my fellow road buddies that I cant guarantee the direct route or even getting there at all, but it will definitely be memorable... :)
Linda Wainwright Feb 6th 2013 2:24PM
You may well ask, "Why do we want life to be easy?" Isn't that that the modern dilema? Why bother to travel if it's all done for you? Is how we travel a metaphor for our life?
Alvina Feb 6th 2013 1:08PM
The old adage, what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger - applies also in travel. My latest sinking feeling was, when catching a taxi back to my hotel only a couple of hours before my flight home, in Kathmandu. When it broke down amongst the chaos and tumult of the city, my young driver almost catapulted out of his seat, and throwing up the bonnet, assured me all would be well.
Initial panic. Then the thought of 'another day in Kathmandu would not be so bad' and I settled down to watch the world go by.
After a crowd of helpers and an hour of entertaining banter and advice, it started.
I made my plane.
Forest Parks Feb 6th 2013 8:44PM
I have this weird fantasy about being an old man in a rainy English pub, with a dog and a million stories that only travel would give me. These kinds of stories can't and shouldn't be made up.... They should be lived and that's why we do it, no matter how stressful at the time.
"I went to this beach in xxx and laid there for 7 hours then drank a beer" isn't a travel story. "I got lost and spent the night on the floor of a random family then went with them to visit their cousin the day after" is!
Arpit Mar 21st 2013 9:58AM
Unplanned travel can be very thrilling and exciting indeed. But for those who cant afford the luxury of going unplanned due to time, money or any other constraints, little bit of planning helps. Many sites like Traverik just help you do that.