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Is Long-Term Traveling Selfish?
"Travel is more than the seeing of sights; it is a change that goes on, deep and permanent, in the ideas of living," - Miriam BeardIs long-term travel selfish? It's a dilemma many backpackers and full-time nomads struggle with. You miss birthdays and weddings, you get to skip sitting behind an office desk eight hours a day, you make your family and friends worry and spend each day fulfilling your own desires to explore the world.
According to Merriam-Webster, the definition of selfish is "seeking or concentrating on one's own advantage, pleasure, or well-being without regard for others." While I would say that partially correlates to the long-term traveler, I'm not sure it's a completely accurate depiction.
There are many selfish aspects to long-term travel. Travel is about oneself, and what we want to get out of an experience. Our days are dictated by sites of interest, as we commit to exploring unique landscapes and having rare experiences. It's purely for the benefit of oneself. However, isn't it necessary to be selfish in life, to get what we want, even if the method is unconventional?
How Travel Is Not SelfishThe part of the definition of "selfish" that doesn't sit well with me is where it states that the person is acting "without regard for others." Traveling is inspiring, and many long-term travelers try to make a positive impact where they go. Whether it's helping a community, imparting knowledge, buying a handmade scarf at a market or playing a game with a child, travelers can make a positive impact. Even something as small as teaching a local about life in your home city or doing a language exchange can help educate someone in another place.
Of course, different people have different travel philosophies, meaning there may be some genuinely selfish travelers out there. However, if they're enjoying what they're doing and not causing harm, are they really acting "without regard for others?"
What we learn we can then pass on to others. By traveling we automatically help the local economy in the place we are visiting. One argument many people have for long-term travel being selfish is that the traveler doesn't help their home economy; however, I don't think many non-travelers are staying home solely to make purchases to help their economy. The cheeseburger you bought for lunch, those new shoes and that gold watch were more likely purchased to fulfill a self-centered desire than anything else.
Many Things In Life Are SelfishEverybody has the ability to make their own decisions. If someone chooses to travel long term, they shouldn't be made to feel like they're doing something wrong. It may be unconventional, but is that really a bad thing? Moreover, aren't most of things people do out of passion "selfish"? If you go to the gym, do yoga, get a dog, buy a shirt, or go to work, aren't these all motivated by a selfish desire? In my opinion, you need to be a bit selfish in order to feel fulfilled.
Is Being Selfish Always A Bad Thing?
But, why does this need to be a bad thing? Our passions are what help us grow. Why do you think travel is such a great resume booster? It gives you life skills and knowledge, and makes you more of a citizen of the world. As a well-rounded individual, you can then make a positive impact on society.
On a recent bus ride in Bolivia, I sat next to a man who had uprooted his two boys, one 14 and one 9, to volunteer around the world. At first I couldn't believe he would take them out of school and away from their friends at such a young age; however, when the nine-year-old boy began to speak, I was amazed at how smart he was. He knew how to read braille from working with the blind, spoke of the habits of monkeys living in the wild, knew a lot about health and nutrition and spoke of working with the mentally challenged in a mature and sensitive manner. His dream was to travel the world and experiment with natural remedies to come up with cures for diseases. What a selfless goal to come out of someone's "selfish" act.
Do you think long-term travel is selfish?
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Reader Comments (Page 1 of 1)
Britany Robinson May 8th 2012 4:19PM
If travel is something that someone needs to feel fulfilled, then it's important for them to make that a priority. It's difficult to make other people in your life happy if you're not happy yourself. When I took off for months at a time after graduating, my parents were worried but it brought them so much joy to see how happy I was while I traveled. I think a key to making your travels not selfish is sharing your experiences with your loved ones as much as possible and encouraging them to see the world as well!
Scribbles May 12th 2012 9:04PM
I am in favor of traveling alone and doing long-term traveling. Last year I was away from home for 170 days while thru-hiking the Appalachian Trail. This was the fulfillment of life-long dream which fueled and rekindled a love for the mountains, nature and living a simplified life.
My husband is not a hiker; he provided the support and encouragement to me for the journey.
Yes, it was difficult to be apart. The trek has however brought us closer together and shown us the things in life that we truly appreciate.
Hattie Crabtree May 12th 2012 9:06PM
I got dragged visiting various relatives when I was growing.They rarely came to see us as my Dad was a drunk and Mom would was desperate to see her lazy relations.People have the right to travel and if they got the $,why not?I have been fortunate to visit all 50 states,not many have done that.
Hattie Crabtree May 10th 2012 9:52AM
Ooops,I left the up out from growing up in my post.
chris May 12th 2012 9:07PM
Oh, come on! If someone has enough time and money to travel as much as they want to, what business is it of mine or anyone else's?
These accusations of "selfish" sound like jealousy to me.
Samantha May 12th 2012 9:07PM
I agree
One of Billions May 12th 2012 9:07PM
I know one family that is basically disowning a member because that person is off exploring the world and themselves. The family feels their family member shows them no attention nor appreciation when the only thing that is going on is this person is attempting to find themselves. To stop someone from doing that for your own agenda is incredibly selfish. Find happiness for yourself by yourself and learn to be happy when others do the same.
p curley May 12th 2012 9:07PM
To quote a line from a Ricky Nelson song: "You can't please everybody so you have to please yourself"
Mikeachim May 12th 2012 9:07PM
Absolutely it's selfish. Except, it isn't. Or doesn't have to be.
The fault is our language. We currently only have one word for two concepts, namely: (a) out just for yourself, at the expense of others, and (b) self-interested enough to care about your own welfare without screwing over other people. I've been racking my brains about this for a while, for a synonym that could be used. I can't think of one. Maybe a better brain than mine could come up with something - I hope so. But right now, "selfish" carries all this negative baggage.
But travellers have to be selfish. That's how they stay safe, how they get to where they want to go (professionally, geographically) and ultimately how they become & stay happy.
But regarding the negative form of selfish, there are many kinds. "If you loved me you wouldn't want to travel". That's often a really selfish thing to say. "If you really wanted to travel you'd have done it by now." Also selfish. Travelers popularly get a bad rap for being the status-quo-breakers, for satisfying a wanderlust urge in a way that some people can't understand and then, sloppily, narrow-mindedly, label "selfish". Seems to me it's rarely that simple. It's rarely either/or. There is no paradox in desperately wanting to see the world and desperately wanting to settle down with someone/in a job/in a place. There's a tension, and a selfish one (in the good sense, not the bad sense), but it's not a sign of rejection of either desire.
We need a new word, and we need a new way of thinking about the good kind of selfish. This I believe.