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Berkeley diary: The way of the tortoise
A week ago I sat at this same table, cloudy and clouded, recalling an afternoon almost a decade before when I stood on a hilltop in Umm Qais, Jordan, looking out over Syria, Israel, the Golan Heights, Lebanon, the Jordan Valley and the Sea of Galilee. I remembered thinking how indistinguishably the landscape of one country flowed into the other, and how confounding it was that people raised in such similar environments, confronting so many of the same challenges of soil and climate, could be so intractably divided.
"Intractable divisions," I wrote in my journal, "delineate our world still."
I recalled a scheme I'd dreamed up a few years ago: I'd called it The 1000 Dinners Project. The idea was that we would bring 500 families from Iran to the United States and 500 families from the U.S. to Iran. Each family would spend the day with a host family, going to the market to select the food for the evening's dinner, then preparing that dinner in the host family's home and finally sitting down together to enjoy it.
During the course of the day they would learn about the ingredients and routines of each other's everyday lives; they'd share concerns and dreams and hopefully little jokes as well. And slowly, slivering cracks would appear in the stereotyped images each had brought to their encounter, and by the end of the day they would have formed a bond, however frail and fledgling, with someone who had once been branded the "enemy." And some of them, at least, would return to their villages and towns and tell their friends, relatives and neighbors that those foreign people were not so foreign after all, and seeds of tolerance and peace would be planted.Of course, it was impractically hard to organize and fund this dream, and it fell by the way.
But on a deeper level, that dream has inspired and defined my life as a traveler and as a travel writer. For the past quarter-century I have been dedicated to the proposition that travel seeds understanding, and that understanding nurtures open-mindedness and compassion -- and that these pave the pathway to peace and progress. As a wandering pilgrim, I have come to worship in the church of insatiable inquiry and unconditioned kindness.Still, last week I looked at the world's headlines and wondered: Are we really learning anything? Are we any closer to the catechism of kindness than before?
Then in the ensuing days my wife and I attended the screening in Berkeley of a wondrously moving documentary called The Miracle of the Colored Light, by Japanese filmmaker Fumiko Irie; Irie-san had flown from Japan to attend the screening and graciously opened her heart to the audience afterwards, answering questions in Japanese and English. David Farley flew to Oakland from New York and we dined a block from my house in culinary Italy, savoring authentic salumi, porchetta and arancini at a corner eatery called Adesso. I toured Canada in San Francisco at a conference with more than 100 enthusiastic travel folks who had convened to convey the riches of their country, from Newfoundland to the Yukon. I edited dispatches that took me to France and Nepal, and read tales of food adventures sent from Syria, Mexico, the Netherlands, Morocco, the Philippines, Sweden, Cambodia, Ethiopia, Japan, Wales, and the Micronesian island of Fais. And I taught a writing workshop where students were shaping life-changing journeys in Brazil, India, Germany, and other far-flung places.
Now I sit at the Strada reflecting on this gloriously global week and realize, once again, that the world is interwoven all around and through me in a way that would have been unimaginable even a half-century ago. I look around this sunny cafe and see tangible evidence that the world is growing closer. It's just that when change is tectonic, molecular, you have to be attuned to the slightest movements.
I open my journal and write: "Hard as it sometimes may be to discern from the headlines, I have to believe that humanity is evolving, plodding tortoise-like across the Galapagos of time, toward some enlightened end. Step by step, we lumber, a moving film here, a bridging encounter there, seeds of goodwill and understanding borne around the globe. The end is not in sight, but on this April day, I've found renewal of spirit to keep plodding on the way."
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Reader Comments (Page 1 of 1)
Nick Apr 21st 2010 3:18PM
Very true. Thank you for writing this!
Don George Apr 21st 2010 3:38PM
Thanks, Nick!
bobbi Jun 15th 2010 2:16PM
Loved this piece!
I think your idea of dinner exchange is a wonderful one.
What better way to learn about someone than sharing a meal?
I do think however that sometimes we (humanity in general) are moving slower than tortoise pace when it comes to embracing each other's differences, which is such a shame since what I've learned through my travel's is it's our differences that make us the most interesting.
I also agree with many of the other posts I read that the people, like in Iran are very accepting and open to experiencing exchange with other's, unfortunately it's the governments that are a problem.
Bobbi
Karen Apr 21st 2010 3:53PM
A lovely piece. Thank you.
Don George Apr 21st 2010 4:26PM
Karen, thanks for your kind words!
Sharif Apr 21st 2010 3:50PM
Well, as a woman who has been married to an Iranian, I must tell you that the Iranian CITIZEN has no animosity towards Americans. In fact, most Iranians love everything American, would desperately love to see America, and would welcome with open arms any visits from Americans. Sadly, it's America herself that I've seen display the most animosity on a person-to-person basis, and harbor the most prejudice. Better would be to send 1000 American families to Iran for a day; I feel quite certain, most would come back completely changed.
Don George Apr 21st 2010 4:08PM
Sharif, Thank you very much for this thoughtful and enlightening note. I am very happy to hear that everyday Iranians feel this way toward Americans. I agree that it would be wonderful if we could transport 1000 Americans into Iran. Is there a marked and pervasive disconnect between what the Iranian government says about the U.S. and what everyday Iranian citizens feel? Or do Iranians' attitudes toward Ameria/Americans vary dramatically from one region to another or perhaps from urban areas to rural areas?
Don George Apr 21st 2010 4:24PM
Sharif, Thank you very much for this thoughtful and enlightening note. I am very happy to hear that everyday Iranians feel this way toward Americans. I agree that it would be wonderful if we could transport 1000 Americans into Iran. Is there a marked and pervasive disconnect between what the Iranian government says about the U.S.and what everyday Iranian citizens feel? Or do Iranians' attitudes toward Ameria/Americans vary dramatically from one region to another or perhaps from urban areas to rural areas?
Don George Apr 21st 2010 4:08PM
Karen, thanks for your kind words!
Ronny Apr 21st 2010 7:07PM
A beautiful essay, Don, which perfectly describes why I got into this business myself -- to increase international understanding in some small way. We have to keep chipping away at it!
travelina Apr 21st 2010 9:31PM
Thanks Don for this moving essay. I love your idea of a 1000 Dinners Project, and I can imagine such a project spreading peace throughout the world. Instead of developing new weapons, we could put that money into airfare and recipes!
I am very sad to hear that Sharif has experienced animosity in America, and I know from personal experience how extremely welcoming Iranians can be towards Americans: my college daughter's best friend is Iranian, and she was practically adopted by her friend's family.
I think there is much to love and admire about the Iranian people, especially after their incredibly courageous protests in the streets of Tehran this summer against their repressive and illegitimate regime. Many Americans showed their support for the Iranian people at that time, especially on Twitter and Facebook. If only our own government had been courageous enough to support the Iranian people, who are suffering under a cruel dictatorship. And I'm afraid even 1 Million Dinners with the mullahs would not decrease their hatred for America.
Trisha Apr 22nd 2010 5:27PM
Really beautiful and powerful piece, Don. I wish that ambassadorship was something taught in our schools! Your 1000 Dinners idea is a great one - people don't change their opinions or attitude because someone told them to, it really does boil down to individuals learning from each other.
Jamie Rhein Apr 23rd 2010 8:24AM
Lovely piece Don. It reminds me of how I feel when I step into an ESL classroom of adults from all over the world and they tell me of their dreams.
Trina, in my experience (I've taught every grade K-12) classrooms do teach these concepts which is one indication of why schools are a hope for the future, particularly when schools embrace diversity.
It's when kids go home that I sometimes worry about. When nastiness comes out of a kid's mouth, I think of that apple and a tree.
Juan Gonzalez Apr 22nd 2010 9:04PM
I loved the literary image you created for humanity: "humanity is evolving, plodding tortoise-like across the Galapagos of time, toward some enlightened end", and yes, it seems unfair that when technology has accelerated every aspect of our lives, finding enlightenment happens at such a slow rate.
In my post "I could live here" ( http://global-culture.org/i-could-live-here/ ) I was pursuing a similar quest: using my passion for travel to find places that transcend the mundane: "[these places have] moved away from the pragmatism that governs every aspect of modern life and have found a way to decorate themselves with elements that seem superfluous or even luxurious. What sells us is the fact that their inhabitants have been able to transcend the mundane"
Perhaps our journeys will cross one day. Until then, there is Twitter http://twitter.com/globalculture
Jamie Rhein Apr 23rd 2010 8:27AM
Sorry, I meant Trisha.
Also, I like the word ambassadorship. It would be a good word to put on classroom walls.
Jeffji Apr 23rd 2010 10:43AM
A wonderful sentiment, beautifully expressed. I totally agree with your view of the sometimes frustratingly slow, but inexorable progress of humanity. Who would have dreamed, even 50 years ago, that even people in remote corners of the world would be familiar with concepts like Solar Energy, Broadband and Animal Rights? I mean, wolves have been around for 50 million years, and they can't even make a good cup of coffee.
pam Apr 24th 2010 12:04PM
I've long thought that the dinner table is the direct route to better world relations, though I've not expressed that idea as elegantly as you have here. I once spent a birthday dinner with a group in which we did not collectively share a language and it remains one of my favorite travel memories, ever...all that awkward translation, all that effort to communicate, all that love for good food and company.
Thanks for this. It made me happy and hopeful.
Dave Fox Apr 27th 2010 9:03PM
Don--
Your 1,000 Dinners idea is absolutely brilliant -- and perhaps impractical for one person to take on alone, but I'd encourage you to seek out others who would also like to help make it happen. It's not a ridiculous goal.
I have yet to visit Iran, but I've been to around 45 other countries, and have yet to find a place in the world where I didn't feel welcome on a personal level, even if my government wasn't getting along with their government on a political level. There are many level-headed people in both the U.S. and Iran who need to hang out and cook some dinner together. I really believe this sort of exchange helps transcend the political messes that occur in our world.
If you ever want to revisit this idea and need help, I'd love to be involved.
Dave Fox
Founder, Globejotter Tours
http://www.GlobejotterTours.com
Joya Apr 29th 2010 10:31PM
This is such a beautiful article. The reason I write about travel is to encourage young people to travel so they can understand other cultures and be more accepting of others who are different instead of passing judgement. I'm going to keep writing.