I worked for Usairways for 32 yrs as a flight attendant based in BOS, PIT and CLT. I commuted for 26 yrs. What I remember most is asking a non commuter to work a flt for me so I could go home when I was in my hometown and a dead heading crew was on. Most graciously said yes but most memorable were the judgemental ones who said no, you should live in a crew base, I do. I would inform them that I had kids and no family members in the base and I did commute for my families best interest, not mine. Now those same flight attendants are facing commuting, and to them I say, what goes around, comes around. No flight attendant enjoys commuting, but it is very doable with determination and planning. It does give you a better perspective on the daily annoyances of frequent flyer's. I noticed over the years that commuters often had more empathy towards the passengers and yes, this made them better flight attendants. Over the years I have met many fascinating people as seat mates with great stories, and also I've learned to shut them out and get some much needed rest.
Best Wishes on your commute, it isn't easy, but it is doable!

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