The TSA took my baby story: The relationship between psychology, customer service and traveling with a young one

1. People who are flying are consumers. They've paid for a flight. That means they have expectations of being able to catch their flights. This can produce anxiety if expectations and reality are not matching up when TSA's security measures become cumbersome, time-consuming and seem ridiculous.

2. A person flying alone with a young child has a bit of paraphernalia to deal with. Along with the child, consider the stroller, bottle, diaper bag, and various objects the caregiver has brought along to keep the child happy. It's enough of a process to get belongings for one person ready for security. Add in the rigmarole it takes to take a child through the security check, and there's potential for more anxiety.

3. TSA is a government entity that has all the power at a security check. Regardless that most TSA agents are splendid and do their jobs with the highest professionalism, there are jerks--not many, but there are some.

Plus, there are passengers who have had bad experiences with authority figures--or have anxiety about authority figures. There's something about going through security that can make even the most law abiding citizens worry.

4. When the mother did get red flagged for a security check because the alarm went off, she was put, along with her child, in a clear box-like room with Plexiglas walls. That seems like a recipe for high anxiety. Why wasn't she checked as soon as she beeped? Why the box-like room? The more I watched her in the room, the more anxious I felt. She was stuck until someone made a move.

First, there she is holding a young child and being ignored. Watch how many times her hand goes up as she's trying to get someone's attention. Watch how her feet are shifting. She's having problems. Certainly it's not rocket science to know that people with young children don't really need to be put in a box-like room without knowing how long they'll need to wait in it, if at all. Frankly, making people wait before getting the wand feels like a bit of a power play to me.

5. When you are stuck in a box- like room, but the others around you are able to go about their merry way, it can make you feel even worse. While the woman is in the room with her child, others are passing through security without a hitch. Why wouldn't this put her on edge? Or is the role of TSA really about testing our patience?

6. Even when she was finally checked, the process was maddeningly slow. She was then taken over to sit in a chair for an even longer amount of time. For some reason TSA kept talking to her. I can imagine the "Yoooouuur in a huuurrryyy arrre yyyyouuuuu? Trying to catch a flight? This will teach you a lesson about trying to get TSA to hurry, and I'd watch the attitude, Lady."

Running a wand over someone should be quick and easy. I've been wanded a few times myself. In my experience, it''s been a slam dunk process. This woman was checked and rechecked. She could have completely undressed and got dressed again longer than it took TSA to clear her. The whole time she was being checked, her baby is off to the side in the stroller. There's nothing worse as a parent to be in a situation when you are in a busy place with your eye off your child. The child was not taken anywhere, but the woman might have been thinking the child could have been.

Even though TSA did not separate this woman from her child, as the woman claimed an agent did, I'd say that TSA didn't do a whole lot to ensure that this woman would give them high marks on customer service. If anything, it looks to me like the TSA agent was having a bit of a power play.

In Katie's post, she mentioned that she didn't think the woman was separated from her belongings like she claims she was. I think she was.

From what I saw, a woman with blond hair gathered the belongings off the conveyor belt. It took some time for the mother to be reunited with her belongings, some of which belonged to her child. One of the belongings was a laptop. It doesn't take long for a laptop to be snatched.

Like Katie said, the woman didn't appear to make a phone call to her mother or her husband on her cell phone like she claimed she did--unless it is a teensy tiny cell phone that none of us can see.

Maybe it was a cell phone of her imagination--the one that she uses whenever she's fending off an anxiety attack. Regardless of the details about this story that are not true, TSA at this particular airport, at least, still has some work to do.

Perhaps this particular TSA could take pointers from this security sign at the airport in Houston.

"Families and Those Needing Special Attention" are listed first. "Small children; strollers" are under the first bullet point.

If a mom (or a dad) and the baby in arms beep, help them first--with a smile. Say, "Sorry to inconvience you, but I need to find out why you beeped. Thanks for your understanding."

It will work like a charm.