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There he is, the little monster. Yes, he's an adorable little monster, but a monster nonetheless. Whether he's traveling with you or he's headed toward you, either way, he's on the flight with you. Near you. I feel for you. Really, I do.
Traveling sucks, most of you will agree, but what's even worse than traveling is traveling with children, even when it's your own kid you're traveling with. Why? Because the people around you give you the please-don't-sit-by-me look. Because you've only got two hands. That's it. One. Two. It's not easy carrying the kid, the car seat, the stroller, the diaper bag (that's been stuffed full of fun things things to do, causing it to weigh more than the kid and the car seat alone) while you're doing whatever it is you have to do in order to keep the kid happy - and quiet - on-board an aircraft, surrounded by all those people giving you that look.
Like I said, traveling can suck, but you don't have to let the stress of travel ruin your trip. Here are a few tips I've used when traveling with my own little two year-old monster who has flown once a month since he was three months old.
ARRIVE EARLY - The line at security just keeps getting longer now that summer is here, so give yourself a little extra time. And by God, check those bags, if you haven't already, even if you have to pay that ridiculous bag fee. Why? Because it's even more ridiculous struggling lug all that gear on the airplane where you'll only end up even more frustrated and agitated when you find all those overhead bins full. So pack light, come early, and check the bags.
BE PREPARED - Don't be surprised when TSA makes you toss that sippy cup full of milk and the bottle of water out of your diaper bag. No need to remind TSA the liquids are for your little princess. They already know. And yes, you AND the princess will need to remove your shoes - both of you - even if sweet pea is just four months old. Don't get angry. It's a waste of time. Just be ready when it happens. That means leave the liquids at home and start taking off those shoes and collapsing that stroller before it's your turn to walk through the metal detector. No one likes standing in line behind the person who is not ready to go when it's their time to go. So go! And after you pass through security, please don't forget to purchase milk and water (and snacks if you didn't bring any food from home) in the terminal before you board the flight. Chances are the flight attendants will run out of bottled water and food before they even reach your row.
TRAVEL TIME - Whatever you do, do not take the all-nighter when traveling with your perfect little angel who may not be so perfect on a flight at night. There's nothing worse, or more stressful, than traveling with a screaming child, especially when everyone around you is trying to sleep. Me, I always book my flights during the day, during nap time. That way the kid can run around and wear himself out at home, before we have to head to the airport. Nine times out of ten my little cutie patootie will
fall asleep on taxi out, allowing me (and whoever is seated in front of me) a few hours of quiet time. What parent doesn't need a little quiet time?
DIAPER BAG - Oh sure I spent WAY too much on a designer diaper bag before my son was born, only to use the messenger style Diaper Dude my husband bought every single time we traveled - and didn't travel. You'd be shocked at all I can fit in that one bag. All I can say is the style of the Diaper Dude makes traveling easy. Why? Because the messenger bag leaves hands free! That means your hands are available to do what they REALLY need to do - like take care of the child.
BABY SLING / WRAP - The Baby Bjorn made going through airport security completely do-able when I had to go it alone. With the kid attached to me, all I had to do was slide off my shoes (slip-ons when traveling with the kid) and throw them, along with the Diaper Dude, on the conveyor belt without asking a stranger for help, which is something you may not feel inclined to do when the stranger behind you is looking kind of...well...strange. Once on-board, use the sling when baby falls asleep. In other words, let the carrier hold the baby while your hands hold a book. NOTE: The sling cannot be worn on take-off or landing or anytime when the fasten seat belt sign is on.
SIT-N-STROLL - Best invention known to mankind - mankind with kids that is. Once through security, sit baby in the chair and start strolling to the gate. Baby rides like a
king in his first class seat. When it's time to board, roll the little prince onto the airplane and straight to your seat while passengers already seated oooh and ahhh at your precious bundle of joy. Once at your seat, retract the wheels and VOILA - the stroller is now a car seat! After the flight deploy the wheels and you're off and rolling to baggage claim (you did check the bags, didn't you?) and then it's off to the car where once again you retract the wheels and VOILA - car seat again! NOTE: The SIT-N-STROLL does not fit down the aisle of a narrow body aircraft (S80, 737, 757), so if you're traveling alone leave the SIT-N-STROLL at home, or just ask for help from the strange looking person behind you.
CARES (Child Aviation Restraint System) - The second best invention ever! If your child is at least one y
ear-old and weighs 25 lbs, you can leave the car seat at home and use these simple straps that easily fit around the back of a seat and attach to the seat belt to keep your child safe.
RIDE ON CARRY ON - The third best invention ever! Would you believe the genius behind this was a flight attendant! Oh yeah. Who else but a flight attendant would come up with something so amazing? If you've got a roller-board and prefer traveling light, t
his is the contraption for you - and me! (Of course I already own one.) Just attach the "lawn chair" to the back of your rolling bag and off you go, as simple as that. Once on the flight the chair folds flush against your suitcase and fits perfectly into the overhead bin. Use the chair with CARES and your little one travels safe and sound while you're off and running. NOTE: Be prepared for pointing and laughter as you sprint through the terminal with your little one attached to your bag.
DVD PLAYER - Never - I repeat - NEVER leave home without the DVD player. And don't forget the charger. Pack it in your bag, the one that is going under the seat in front of you. Charge the DVD
regularly. There are outlets in every airport. Oh and DVDs. Don't forget to pack the DVDs, too! All I can say is thank God for the Teletubbies. La-La and friends have gotten us through over 35 flights - calm and peaceful flights.
BRING SOMETHING FUN TO DO: Coloring books, crayons, stickers, books, bring it all! Years ago a flight attendant told me that when she traveled with her son she always made sure to give him a small present each hour of flight in return for good behavior. Sure, you're buying good behavior from a kid, a kid who should be well behaved to begin with, but sometimes kids act out, even the well behaved ones. Hey, kids are kids. And good behavior is worth every penny. Just ask the guy seated in front of you.

DON'T FORGET ABOUT THE PASSENGER IN FRONT OF YOU - I know you're going to find this very hard to believe, but the person seated in front of you is not at all thrilled to be seated in front of you and your adorable child, no matter how cute the little munchkin is. Remember, it's your job as a parent to be aware of what the little monkey is doing, so don't let those feet kick the back of that chair, please! And stop those little hands from banging on the tray table, please! Sure, kids will be kids and can't always be controlled, but you can try, can't you? Please try. For the sake of the passenger in front of you. The passenger in front of you who is begging you. The passenger in front of you who is now begging me.
IGNORE THE ANGRY PASSENGER. Hey you, angry guy, they're trying their best to keep the kid quiet, okay! Maybe those little ears hurt from the pressurization of the airplane, who knows. Don't forget, you, too, were once a kid, and you were probably just as annoying as the crying kid seated behind you. Probably more so, based on the way you're behaving now. Look, you're not the only one who thinks traveling sucks. Just ask the little stinker stuck sitting behind you. The one that's acting just like you!
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Reader Comments (Page 1 of 1)
Brian M Jul 14th 2008 9:39AM
Good post. Too bad the people who NEED to read it, won't even know it ever exists.
The single most annoying thing a kid behind me can do is kick the seat. Heck, even ADULTS push their knees into the seat back, causing me intense discomfort. So, for you parents out there, please, PLEASE keep your children from kicking the seat. It's FAR worse than screaming non-stop on a red-eye (that's what ear-plugs are for anyway).
mikey Jul 14th 2008 4:00PM
I have traveled a lot with my daughter (now 3) over the past few years, most often without my husband alongside to help. These tips are very spot-on.
Before I ever traveled with her solo, I thought through the entire travel experience -- from leaving our house, to the airport, to security, through the terminal, during the connecting flight, at baggage claim -- in my head to see how everything would work logistically. And because I did so, everything went perfectly. I had seen too many overloaded sherpa moms miserably traveling solo with kid(s) in the past to dare inflict that upon myself.
A few suggestions on things that have helped me/us immensely:
- Our airport (LAX) doesn't have valet parking for all terminals. But there is an off-site valet service minutes from the airport. You swing by to pick up the valet, then they take your car after you get to the terminal (and bring it back when you call upon return). This saves the nuisance and stress of loading luggage in and out of parking shuttles. And it only costs about $5/day more than self-park.
- We checked out the Sit n Stroll, but found it kind of flimsy, and friends had said it wasn't great as either a stroller or a carseat. So, we instead bought the GoGoBabyz Travelmate, which hooks onto our daughter's regular carseat and makes it work like a "wheely cart" stroller to get us through the airport (and it can buckle into the airplane seat to keep her snug). We get asked about it a half dozen times every trip while going through airports because it's just so easy.
- Rather than also haul a stroller on board for gate check (or checking it at risk of being broken), we just by a cheap ($15-20) stroller at our destination then leave it for friends (or the hotel) to use in the future.
jamie Jul 14th 2008 9:15PM
The kicking is a nightmare, and almost impossible to prevent. Always seat Dad (if he's available) directly in front of kicking-aged children.
jamie
www.travelsavvymom.com
jamie Jul 14th 2008 9:18PM
The kicking is a nightmare, and almost impossible to prevent. Try seating Dad (if he's available) in front of kicking-aged children.
Jamie
http://www.travelsavvymom.com
LawyerChick Jul 15th 2008 8:44AM
This is a great idea and one I have seen in practice with families traveling together. The parents and older kids get seated to form a buffer zone around the kid most likely to be noisy. Believe me, we appreciate it!
Dave Jul 14th 2008 10:47PM
As a dad with 3 kids that have flown a couple of time, the best thing that you can do, when not traveling with your kids, is to ignore everybody else's child when it starts going crazy. Kids get going when they know they have an audience and the angry guys and gals are perfect fodder for littles ones to get cranked up. If you have a free hand, it is good to help with the bags when you can. It speeds everything up and gets everybody moving and in a better mood.
Mike Jul 15th 2008 1:49AM
Big coincidence you mention this... sitting a few rows forward of a little girl having a hard time on a flight today - wonderfully happy passenger yelling "Jesus" at the top of his lungs... Whole new definition of class...
LawyerChick Jul 15th 2008 8:51AM
These are great tips, Heather!
To add to Jamie's comment above, if it's just 1 parent and 1 kid in a 3-seats-across row in coach, PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE put the kid in the window! Do NOT put the kid in the middle with a smile like, "he's smaller so that means more room for the two of us."
Unfortunately this is usually done by the parents who don't bring DVDs or toys, and I end up playing babysitter or my lap gets used as a head or foot pillow when the kid (finally) takes a nap.
(Tip for passengers who want to avoid sitting near kids? Try to snag an exit row seat.)
Gretchyn Jul 15th 2008 1:35PM
Good tips! I'll add one: PLEASE don't get nasty or loud when you're trying to calm down your child. I've been on many flights where the parent is more annoying than whatever the child is doing.
Another tip: dollar store toys! Stock up on some new cheap toys your child hasn't seen before. Just the novelty will keep your child's attention. This trick has worked wonders for long car rides.
And because you can't take the editor out of the girl: I believe it's "rollaboard," not "rollerboard."
Love your blog, Heather...keep it coming!
melissa miller Jul 15th 2008 4:08PM
kids are ok on short flights,but going to Europe is an entirely different matter. I was on a flight coming back from Istanbul in 2006. I heard the kids before I saw them. They were in the boarding area and were screaming and crying before we even boarded. Their parents seem to oblivious to their behavior. on the plane,their father ignored them and their mother as well. They were allowed to run up and down the aisles,lay down in them,jump up and down in the seats and pretty much did what they wanted. The mother had not brought anything for them to play with or occupy them. The flight attendants had to ask the father to put them in back in their seats continually throughout the flight. They posed a serious security and safety risk to all the passengers. When it was time to eat,they didn't want was being served.the father asked the attendants "you have no special food for children/" she told him he could have ordered it ahead of time. He had also not bought himself a seat,I guess he thought he could just perch on the arm of his wife's seat during the twelve hour flight! The entire trip was punctuated by the screams(ear piercing in a plane) of both kids,and one time,the girl,facing back toward another row of passengers,leaned over and slapped a woman in the face,a total stranger! the mother just smiled and shrugged her shoulders. When we started to land in New York,the father was told he would have to sit down. He went to his seat,and the children started screaming again. He just smiled and shrugged also. FINALLY,when we were almost on the ground,the attendant offered all of us seated near the brats a free glass of champagne.Without a doubt, it was the WORST flight I have been on in the thirty years I have been flying to Europe. Parents are stressed out taking children on a plane,but a little planning before hand can make the trip nicer for everyone. Take some toys and games for them,because it is boring for them to just sit. Call ahead and ask for a childs' meal.Try to travel at night,so they might sleep. Seats at the rear of the plane may be a better choice.
carol Willner Jul 17th 2008 1:22PM
I always feel sorry for children who misbehave in public. They have the misfortune to have parents who are too self absorbed to actively impart discipline into their lives. Note, I said discipline and not punishment. By the time the children board the plane it is too late. I began teaching my children proper behavior before they could talk. We would eat out at the local diner during hours of least business. We progressed to riding on busses and trains for short trips. We played "games" like the napkin game in which the object was to get a napkin on your lap without anyone else noticing it. The surprise and praise that followed being first and unnoticed was more than sufficient reward for the "winner." We had similar "games" to cover public transportation, etc. I emphasized the fact that we were wherever we were for our own purposes, and our conversation was for our own purposes. We were not there for the entertainment or education of others, and the best way to be liked and to get good treatment for ourselves was to try to intrude on the consciousness of other passengers as little as possible. Of course my children sometimes acted up, or were too loud in public, but those instances were rare and usually caused by some external condition like ear pain. My children were frequet travelers and were never loud disruptive on trains or planes. Of course I always prepared for trips utilizing most of the suggestions for games, toys, etc, but the most important carry on was a history of teaching self discipline and courtesy to others.
Solpallerola Jul 17th 2008 5:15PM
Oh Gosh, thats perfect... i work in an Airline and i wish i could give this article to every passenger there is... Hope to keep reading more...