Gadling

One poster was probably closest to the right answer: except for the obvious factors like economic prosperity, weather and local cultural exceptions, which you can judge about your city, it's probably just hard for singles everywhere because of the increasing demands on our time and our willingness to sit in front of the computer, combined with crappy singles bars and other hangouts.

But Kym (Feb 23 2007) said in a post something that a lot of women say:
"It's all about respect guys. Give it out and it comes back to you tenfold."

This is wholly not true and you women are hypocrites. I've agreed with the women's equality position all my life, have good relationships with my mom and sisters, and have always treated women with respect and fairness. But not one women has ever treated me with fairness in this cultural area and started up a conversation with me.

Don't talk to me about biology, or the culture telling you you're a slut if you approach a man, or any of that. You (rightly) demand equality, counter to biological tradition but you expect me to hit on you because of biology? And who cares what your called if you're promiscuous--the only person who can rightfully be cautious of you if you are is a non-promiscuous man--screw everybody else.

You correctly expect to be treated fairly and equitably despite your sex, but you still expect me to initiate relationships because of my sex! You women are sexist and hypocritical. And now you're going to tell me to just "take it like a man", or "be a man", right? You women are known for valuing feelings, but my feelings don't count? Or are you going to act like a typical anti-intellectual American and stoop to calling me gay because I have feelings too?

Instead of doing nothing and waiting for aggressive men to hit on you, how about trying to find good men who aren't hitting on you all the time because we'd like to feel valued, desired, and included too?

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